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Tips to Get a Girl to Like You

images-6There are some exceptionally matter-of-reality, (some may say) antiquated things that young ladies like. It is vital to know these nuts and bolts, in order to pull in the protest of your love.

There are guys who are naturally suave and can get any girl they wish to fall for them. And then there are guys who have no clue about what to do when the object of their affection is in front of them. Assuming you’re from the latter lot, here’s a piece of advice for you. Don’t panic! First, you’re not the only guy out there who gets tongue-tied when he likes a girl. Second, it’s a perfectly natural reaction to get nervous when she’s around, especially if she has no clue about your feelings.

Make Sure She Knows You Exist

A girl will not give you a second glance if she can’t…well…see you. So, make yourself visible to her. We don’t mean wear neon, we mean do simple things to get her attention. Things like smiling, saying a polite hello, holding the door open for her may seem inconsequential, but these are the things that girls do notice. Find excuses to be around her (not in a stalkerish way though). If you happen to have common friends, get them to introduce the two of you and take it from there.

Look Presentable, Always

OK. So she knows who you are. You guys hang out with a bunch of friends now and then. How can you make her pay attention to you? For starters, dress well. Boys, we know dressing up isn’t on your priority list always, but if you want to make a good impression on this girl you’re sweet on, kindly take the effort to make yourself worth looking at. Take the time to pick out good clothes. They don’t have to be over-the-top expensive designer wear, they just have to fit right and make you look decent.

Pay attention to your hair. Whatever look you’re going for, please complete it. Don’t wear the best clothes and then not wear socks with your sneakers! Yes, girls do notice such things and the tiniest faux pas can alter her perception about you. Always smell good. Girls love guys who smell good. It’s the first thing that attracts them towards you, physically at least. That being said, don’t douse yourself in perfume or cologne. Know when to stop spraying, you don’t want to give her a headache.

Be Well-mannered and Confident

The world says girls like only bad boys. We say girls like guys who treat them nice. Girls like guys who walk on the traffic side of the road, who play with their pets, who respect elders. Girls like guys who will keep the swearing for when they’re with the other guys. Most of all, girls like guys who are confident. So, no matter how nervous you get when she’s around, muster up the courage to at least appear confident in front of her. When you’re confident, it reflects in your disposition.

You must have heard people telling you to be yourself time and again. Here’s the deal: it works. When you’re being yourself, you don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not. There’s no one who can be a better YOU than YOU. So, use yourself to your advantage and see how confident you can be.

Don’t Just Listen, Talk

True: Girls (almost) always have something to talk about.
Also True: Girls like guys who are good listeners.

False: Girls like guys who are only good listeners.

It may be indisputable that girls can go on and on about the tiniest or the biggest of things. But then that’s true even about guys. The misconception is that girls want guys to only listen. The fact of the matter is that, a girl wants to talk to someone who can give the appropriate responses and ensure that the conversation keeps going.

So the next time she talks, listen. Get to know things about her. What she likes and dislikes. What her hobbies and interests are. This way, when she talks about something she’s passionate about, you know what it’s about and can continue talking. You can contribute to a conversation that she’ll definitely not forget, rather than just smiling and nodding intermittently as half the world expects you to.

Give Her a Daily Odd Compliment

Girls love compliments, that’s not news to anyone. What guys sometimes misconstrue this as is that girls love compliments about the way they look. Think about it. She’s pretty: you know it, she knows it. She’s probably heard it from ten other people already. So what can you do? Go beyond her physical being. Compliment her about her creativity.

Admire her patience as she explains a math problem to someone. Tell her how nice it is of her to confirm that all her friends reached home safe after a late night together. Tell her how well she plays the guitar. These are the things girls want appreciated. When you’re complimenting her, be careful not to extol her like she’s a goddess of sorts. She’ll probably just get creeped out and not talk to you again.

Observe the Niceties

When trying to get a girl to like you, this is one thing you just can’t escape. No matter how cliché being nice is, you’ve still got to do it. We’re not talking expensive gifts and promises of the moon. We’re talking simple, yet meaningful gestures that will touch her heart. Remember her birthday. Go one step ahead, remember her family’s birthdays. It will only help your case to get to know her as well as you can, and surprise her with these observations now and then.

Help her whenever she asks for it, and sometimes even when she doesn’t. Remember what her favorite flavor of ice-cream is. Find out what’s her pet peeve. You’re looking at this girl as your prospective girlfriend, as a person you want to have a relationship with.

Be the ‘Friend’ Her Friends Love

There’s an unwritten rule among girls: if I don’t like the guy you’re considering dating, don’t date him. And while there may be exceptions to this rule (just like any other), the importance of a BFF’s approval of a boy in a girl’s love life cannot be ignored. So, here’s the trick: get the friends on your side first. Be extremely nice to them. Help them whenever they need something. Be friendly and fun around them. Be the guy they’ll WANT their friend to be with.

When the girl in question sees what a great and fun person you are to be around, she’ll want a piece of the cake too. And you’ll have a special piece for her, won’t you? *wink wink* Be nice to her friends and they’re likely to put in a good word for you, knowingly or unknowingly. This way, even if it doesn’t work out with her, you can’t have too many friends, can you?

Make Her Laugh

Guys constantly underestimate the importance girls attach to a good sense of humor. A good sense of humor is interpreted as intelligence by most girls. So, make her laugh, make her laugh hard. Smart, witty, dry, sarcastic, goofy: employ any kind of funny you can to impress her. We know it’s not possible for everyone to have the flair of a stand-up comedian and be spontaneous, so it is important to be prepared.

Avoid being sexist. She’ll laugh off a couple jokes, but you must know when to stop. Else you’ll be a labeled ‘that sexist jerk’, a tag that is not very easy to get rid of. Body parts are not to meant to be joked about. Period. Girls generally do not appreciate jokes made about anyone’s body or appearance. Ridiculing other people to make her laugh is not the right way to go about it. If being mean to someone else is the only way you can be funny, please find another way to make Her laugh. Unless insensitive-jerk-who-needs-to-demean-others-to-get-a-laugh is what you’re aiming for.

Flirt with Class

You’ve got to bring in that extra zing to let her know that you have more than friendship on your mind. Flirt: it’s the only way to avoid being stuck in the dreaded ‘friend zone’. But be classy and subtle about it. Tease her with hints here and there so that she knows that you have a romantic interest in her. For instance, if she thanks you for something that you did for her, say something like, “Anything for you sweetheart.” It’s cheesy but it gets the job done.

Physical contact is another important tool to make her aware that you’re attracted to her. But be very very subtle about this. A girl will judge in an instant whether she’s OK with you touching her or not. So you’ve got to be really cautious. Touching her elbow while crossing the street, helping her put on her coat, putting your arm around her shoulders when she’s upset; these are all safe. Maintain a proper distance, give her hints, and let her take it from there. If she likes you back, she will.

You may read page after page about getting a girl to like you, but you’ve got to be prepared for heartbreak as well. The tips given here are just generic ones on what girls generally tend to like. Every girl is different. What may make one’s heart melt may make another’s skin crawl. At the end of the day, all you can do is be true to yourself and to her. The rest will fall into place, if it has to.

WayTo Know if a Girl Likes

Still stuck in the she-adores me, she-cherishes me-not stage? You don’t should be. Give your questions a chance to rest for good with a few recommendations that will control you in knowing whether a young lady likes you.

She looked at him with fluttering eyelashes and flushed cheeks. He sat at a table nearby wondering whether it was him she was looking at. Two minutes later, there she was, playing with her hair. And then he saw it — the dreamiest look he had ever seen. Convinced that she was really, really into him, he walked up to her…

Hi I’m Josh. Care to join me for a cup of coffee?

And the girl, she simply gaped at him and said,

Umm, I’m sorry. I can’t have coffee with you, I’m waiting for my boyfriend. He’ll be here any minute.
Happens. We convince ourselves of the existence of certain telltale signs to gauge how a person feels about us and sometimes we read them wrong. Of course certain signs exist, but they are not as simple as black and white. In fact, the signs of pure physical attraction and the signs of something more are different. They have to be. Unfortunately, the need to merge these signs leads to the emergence of clichés. And these clichés are often taken as the ‘surefire ways to know whether a girl likes you’, which is obviously not always the case. It can’t be.

Clichés

So what are these clichés? Some of these might seem a bit silly, although people claim that these work. Personally, I think these are not applicable to every girl that you meet. Making inferences about a girl’s feelings merely by the way she looks at you or by the way she flutters her eyes might seem very romantic and mushy, just like they show in the movies, but then again, if all the things shown in the romantic movies were to come true, life would be a piece of cake. But we digress. On to those signs then?

– She plays with her hair while talking to you or while looking at you. (So? Her hair might just be soft, is all.)

– She touches her neck. (What if she has a stiff neck that’s hurting real bad? No, seriously.)

– She looks at you with dreamy eyes and stares at your lips. (So about the dreamy thing – maybe she’s sleepy or on dope? And maybe your lips have a bit of that ketchup from lunch? Could happen.)

– She laughs at every joke you make, even if it’s a crappy one. (Maybe she is just being polite.)

– She blushes when she sees you. (Maybe she remembers some silly joke that her friend told her about you.)

The intention here is not to make you doubt every single thing she does around you, nor every reaction she gives you — it’s just that these are all very vague signs and they may or may not mean anything at all. Though non-verbal cues say a lot, these could simply be an indication of temporary physical attraction which might not necessarily culminate into a relationship.

My Version

In case a girl really likes you, she won’t simply resort to non-verbal cues to make her feelings clear. There will most definitely be a change in her behavioral patterns as well. A mix of both these, are the true indicators of how she’s really feeling. Though it is important to remember that body language cues usually focus on physical attraction rather than long-term commitment and relationships. Those signs will naturally make way when you are in a relationship. But the steps that may lead to a relationship can become easier if one has certain cues that they can learn from. The following are signs that are a clear indication of whether a girl really, really likes you.

A genuine, warm smile that reaches her eyes will make way every time y’all come face to face.

When you text her, she will almost always reply without wasting any time. Also, she will try to keep the conversation going for as long as possible.

When y’all are in the same room, her gaze will always be on you. She’ll look at you as often as possible.

She will call you/text you ‘simply because’ — there will be no special agenda on hand. She will simply text to ask how your day is going, or call to tell something mundane or important that happened in hers.

She will be able to talk, talk and talk about anything under the sun with you.

Rarely will she ignore you. She will hang by every word you say when you speak and never turn down an offer to spend time with you (unless of course she has a genuine reason.)

She will do things that she normally would not do. Things like going to a volleyball match to watch you play. Or she might start watching a sport that she knows you like. She will then try and steer it into the conversation, asking you questions about the same.

She will never try to pretend when she’s around you. She will be herself, which means she’s comfortable with you.

She will go out of her way to help you out with your work without ever complaining, and when you thank her, she’ll tell you you’d rather not.

If she sees you chatting with any other girl, she will be jealous. This will show in the taunts that are directed towards you and the girl, or in the way she suddenly becomes withdrawn or sullen.

She will be the first one to congratulate you on your achievements or any other special occasion.

She will brag about you with her friends. Notice if her friends suddenly seem more attentive when you’re around, or start teasing her when you pass them by.

She will encourage and support you (either through words or actions) when you are feeling low and/or tensed.

She will be concerned about your general well-being, and will snap at you when you are negligent about your health — like not eating right or not eating at the right time.

She will chat with you for hours together, not only about the day-to-day events, but also about her experiences and dreams. When she talks about her future, she will mention you in it.

Instead of passing flattering compliments, she’ll be honest with you and tell you what she likes as well as dislikes about you.

And there you have it. The signs which will make it abundantly clear if she is genuinely interested in you or not. These signs, coupled with a lil bit of a sixth sense, and you’ll be well on your way to know if you’re reading the signals right or not.

Say to a Guy You Like

Tongue-tied over the most recent person you discovered hot? In case you’re confounded, pondering what to say to the person you really like, unwind and take a full breath. We have everything made sense of! Simply peruse through the article and you are ‘ready’.

There’s nothing quite like the initial stages of attraction, is there? The stolen glances, the fluttery feelings, the unspoken signals that can leave your emotions skyrocketing one moment and nosediving the next; the secret playoff between two people on who will make the famous over-hyped “first” move. Now I’m all for the modern, liberated woman, but if you’re looking for ways and means to ask a guy out, that’s not really my forte. What I can do, however, is give you the ways and means to get a guy interested enough, and if your stars are in alignment, maybe ask you out.

When it comes to proposing, my views are more conventional with a modern tinge. I believe that you should help the guy, through hints and gestures, to let him know that you like him, but the rest is up to him. I know it sounds backward, old-fashioned – call it whatever you want – but isn’t it way better to have a guy tongue-tied about asking you out? See what I mean? Men and relationships are subjects that have bewildered women from time immemorial. The subtle art of seduction needs some serious work, as does figuring out what to say to a guy you like, so that you don’t sound like a complete dork. Take a look at some possible scenarios and dating tips.

Take Your Pick

Your approach depends on whether you are meeting your ‘prince charming’ in person or conversing through texting, so first figure out which way you wish to go.

In a Text
You know, of all the inventions that the modern world has foisted on us, I think texting ranks way up there with iPods and Swiss knives (is it a knife, is it a scissor, is it a toothpick, who can tell?). Why? Simply because it gives you the ability to plan what you say, and you can come out looking super smart, even though you’ve erased and rewritten seventeen times before you hit “send”. How cool is that? And in a situation where all depends on sounding ‘super cool’, that’s a serious advantage.

So, we’re going to assume you’re already on a text footing with this guy (very good work so far) and want to take it ahead from there. Since you have each other’s phone numbers, I’m also going to assume that you know each other, if only as acquaintances – maybe you study together, work together, or just meet at a hobby class. What you say need not be seeped in emotion – in fact I’ll go as far as to say that don’t get even a hint of emotion to begin with. Keep it light, keep it friendly and keep it oh, so casual. If it’s you that’s starting the texting, start off with something that’s vaguely common, not so much of a flirty text message – maybe a funny one-liner (but please not an obvious forward) or maybe something that happened at class. If you’re up to it, skip a class and ask him if you could borrow some notes – a perfect conversation starter! Follow the one-minute rule; after reading his text, wait for one minute before replying. This helps in setting a casual atmosphere and you don’t come across as jobless and “lifeless”. More or less the same rules apply to an email – light and casual is the mantra, chant while you type.

In Person
The difficult thing is to behave in a manner that’s not contrived; in a situation that is contrived. If you find yourself frequently tongue-tied, remember that it’s better to seem quiet than stupid, really. Loosen up a bit though – make a casual conversation, but draw the line at seeming perky and bubbly, if you’re not, and vice versa.

Figuring out a bunch of cool things to say to a guy and feeling flustered isn’t really going to help. If you two get together, it should be on the basis of what you really are, so keep it real. Do some research on books, movies or music he might like, and bring them up in the conversation; that should help. If he likes you or finds you interesting, he’s likely to keep it going himself, so don’t seem too pushy, and as a rule, end the conversation, text marathon or email spree, with a breezy ‘see you later’ manner. That gives him a chance to get back to you himself.

Things to Get Close To
Here are few lines that will guide you on how your conversation with a guy should be:

Compliments
With a smile on your face and a little love in your tone, shower the guy with genuine and sometimes, may be exaggerated compliments. It’s not only for boys, but everyone loves compliments. Slip them in the middle of the conversation subtly. Guys may not come across as the ones who are particular about their appearance, but they care about it as much as girls, so using lines like Trendy shoes!, I love your watch, or something more intimate like Your cologne smells nice! will do the trick.

Teasing
To spice up the chase, and to catch his attention, tease the guy a little. You can do this by pointing out a cheesy line used by him, or saying “Oh! Did you think you won me over?”. Do not go till the extent of continuously putting him down. The aim is to pull him few notches down and see how he will overdo himself to prove his worth. Guys are very competitive and they make it point to get even with you.

Hard-to-get Attitude
Remember that the thrill is in the chase; even a guy doesn’t like a girl who is easy to get. So even if you are head over heals for this guy, let him work his way into your life. Here is one trick you can use. If he asks you to meet him on Saturday, tell him that you are busy, but don’t cancel the plan. Try postponing it to Sunday. This will project that he is important to you, but you also have a life of your own. Get him to tell you things about himself; do not ask directly.

Parting Words
The golden rule is “your conversation with the guy should be memorable for him”, and no one remembers a boring conversation. So, the moment the conversation hits a downhill, make way for your parting words and leave. Before leaving, appreciate the time you have spent with him. You can use lines like “After long, I have had such a great time!, I didn’t know how time flew! or if you are a little shy, then you can do with a simple It was lovely getting to know you!.

Things You Must Avoid
Here are some pointers that you should strictly stay away from so that you don’t end up ruining a conversation with a guy you’re interested in.

Killing the Mystery
Stay away from narrating your life history in one meeting. The key is to keep the mystery alive and let him discover you bit by bit. Also, while you are just a friend, do not involve him in your problems or sad stories, it will just make him uncomfortable.

Oversmart
While guys love a “beauty with brains” concept, they hate to be lectured or outwitted. Correcting him and forcefully bringing up heavy and intellectual topics will not help at all. It’s not necessary to act dumb if you are smart and knowledgeable, but reduce the intensity of the conversation and make it light and friendly.

Red Zone

Finally, here are some lines that should never be used while talking to a guy you like:

“I am friends with all my ex-boyfriends”: This will reflect that he is just a passing phase for you and you are setting the ground for a breakup already. It can also be misunderstood as a forceful attempt to make him jealous.

“I beat you again! Want to play another game?”: In case you both are going out for games, play genuinely, but do not beat him every time, and insist that he plays again. This does not mean you should deliberately lose, but if he is really bad at the game, then it’s better to leave from there or let him win. Guys don’t like to be mocked at their weakness.

“I tell my best friend everything”: Everyone knows you do, but there is no need to tell him that. This will make the guy nervous. He will think over every action and overanalyze each step. This will steal the spontaneity and ease from the conversation.

“Johnny Depp is the love of my life!”: If a guy can’t call Angelina Jolie “to die for”, the girl can’t also. Like I mentioned earlier, guys are more competitive than girls, and telling them that they are already fighting for the second place is not a good idea. The guy should feel he is all that you aspire, and let him bask in that glory.

To conclude, I’ll consider bending my golden rule, if only a little. If contrived scenarios and flirting lines just don’t do it for you, just tell him that you like him; straight and simple. It takes courage, but remember, fortune favors the brave. What’s the worst that could happen? In many cases, as in the case of the fabulous first days of attraction, the chase is more exhilarating than the win – what you say may make all the difference!

Things to Talk About on a First Date to Make It Truly Memorable

To begin with date is for sure the most uncommon date for generally couples. There’s little ponderousness and bunches of fervor. To start with dates ought to be about the entertaining stories, silly chuckles, likes, and abhorrences. They may not wind up being impeccable, but rather you can make them noteworthy!

We always wonder what are the things to ask on a first date. We guess more guys face this question than girls. We may be wrong, but yes, to make your first date fun for both of you, it is important to know what to talk about on a first date. And so, the only thing you need is a conversation starter.

Once the conversation starts, and you start feeling more and more at ease with each other, we’re sure things will get a lot easier for both of you.
Talking Points for a First Date

You are bustling with topics, but then you face that Socrates-Hamlet-Shakespearean dilemma: to say or not to say. Well, these are some of the topics that fall under the category: to say.

✔ Basic Information
✔ Likes and Dislikes
✔ Funny Stories
✔ ‘How Was Your Day?’
▪ Basic Information

Nothing wrong in sharing basic information about each other. You know, where are you from? What do you do?… All the stuff the Backstreet Boys say they don’t care about in the song ‘As Long as You Love Me’. OK maybe that was a bad example, but it’s always good to know if you have any friends in common and ensure that you don’t have any relatives in common!

▪ Likes and Dislikes

Another very important thing you’d like to know about your date is their likes and dislikes. Their favorite book, their favorite sport, their favorite band, their favorite song. I’ve noticed that once you do find something you share in common with someone, you get this nice comfortable feeling that the person is one of your own. In case you don’t, keep probing, you’ll find something. In case you still don’t, you’ll have a nice long conversation! Just as long as you don’t start arguing as to how the hell they support Manchester United and buzz off all shocked.

▪ Funny Stories

Funny stories are always some of the best conversation starters. In fact some people always like to have a nice, funny anecdote or a joke up their sleeve to tell on a date or when they’re meeting someone new. It really helps break the ice and makes you comfortable that you can make the other person laugh.

▪ ‘How Was Your Day?’

Well often you go out on a date with someone you’ve known for a while. So you pretty much know all the basic information about them and their likes and dislikes. So what’s the point in discussing those? But even when you know them, a date needs a different psychological preparation and hence can get a little awkward. So simply ask them how was their day? what did they do? And the like.
Things You Should Never Talk about on a First Date

Let us discuss the perhaps more important and decidedly gray territory of the first date talk dilemma: what not to say.

✘ Sex
✘ Past Relationships
✘ The Weather

▪ Sex

Unless of course, it is that sort of date. I still don’t know why so many of us can’t wrap their heads around the fact that sexual preferences ought to be kept under the wraps, at least for the first date. Flirt, but you have to know where to draw the boundaries where flirting starts getting kinky. Oh and for the record, it can be uncomfortable for the guy as well and not just the girl on the first date.

▪ Past Relationships

That’s always a bad place to go. But people trying to get over someone or on a rebound date do, talk about their ex like all the time. Which may be fine for some, but a real dampener for most of the people.

▪ The Weather

Because that’s always a very stupid thing to talk about and makes both of you more uncomfortable as you realize that you’re not making much headway with your conversation.
Whatever you do, always remember the two most important rules – to be yourself and to just go and enjoy your time out. No point in lying about who you are, cause then you’re just impressing your date with someone else and not you. and no use worrying about it either, worrying just makes it worse. Don’t worry. Relax. You’re date will go just fine!