Dating or marriage? Which one is better? This has been a point of verbal confrontation since until the end of time. While dating gives you opportunity and distinction, marriage, then again, unites two people as one.
You are responsible only for yourself while dating. You don’t need to carry out the responsibilities of your partner. With marriage comes a whole new set of responsibilities. From paying off the bills to cooking food, everything becomes a responsibility.
Easy Way Out
Breaking up is easier while dating than when in a marriage. There is no need to go through the stressful divorce thing, which comes with dividing of assets too. When you feel that it’s not working out with your partner, you can simply walk off anytime you want.
You do things the way you like. Your partner is usually not bothered if you keep the vase in a certain way or if you left the towel on the bed. You retain your individuality when dating. A different picture arises when it comes to marriage. You have to let go of your individuality, and usually behave in a way your spouse expects you to.
You always have your own little space while dating, which for sure goes away after you get married. You are free to go on vacations, hang out with your friends, or spend some time alone with yourself. After marriage, you certainly do not have all these perks.
Time to Build a Better Relationship
You can always work on your relationship while dating, making it better for both of you, refining and nourishing it everyday. But when married, you are stuck with that person, and when in moments of despair, you hardly put in any efforts, because you know that marriage has a hard way out, and you are not afraid of losing your partner, which furthermore worsens the situation.
While dating, you can spend how much ever you want without someone pointing out to you your expenses and telling you to control them. You are the queen of your own kingdom, and do not need to think twice before spending on yourself. But after getting married, even buying a single dress for yourself can employ a lot of thinking.
Want to go out for a lunch, buy a new car, go out for shopping, or just grab a drink? You need not ask for permission from someone all the time. While dating, you can maintain your individuality even while being with someone. Your freedom is taken away from you after getting married. You cannot go out always anywhere or make plans in which your spouse is not included. Your Saturday nights with your buddies is gone, probably because you’re stuck at your spouse’s family get-together.
Being married, you have a lot to plan. From which curtains would go in the room to planning your next baby, everything is a series of never-ending discussions, which often ends with slamming the doors, or even worse, calling each other names. When dating, you have less topics to discuss so seriously, and even lesser to argue on.
While dating, chances are there that you might part as friends, because you likely broke up on a friendly note. Marriage never ends on a friendly note. When you have fights in your marriage, your relationship becomes ugly, and you probably do not want to see the person’s face ever again, let alone be friends with them.